http://drphil.com/articles/article/643
"People think 'Once we get married, that will all go away.' No, it won't," Dr. Phil says. If you want to know ahead of time if you'll have in-law issues, read Dr. Phil's warning signs:
- Mother-in-law is insensitive; doesn't respect boundaries
- Mother-in-law is overly dependent on son for emotional and lifestyle support
- Partner clearly puts mother-in-law needs/requests ahead of yours
- Partner talks to mother daily; drops everything when she calls
- Partner values mother's advice and opinions over yours
- Partner runs to mother when arguments occur
- Mother-in-law attacks your character
- Mother-in-law treats her son like he's still a child/competes with you
- During family gatherings, you're overlooked or ignored by mother-in-law
- Mother-in-law actively campaigns against your marriage
it will not go away after you get married- I should also add if you have kids.. it will probably only get worse! Good rules to follow. I remember reading this bit from Dr. Phil and saying, "Yes, yes, amen to that!" Two of my girlfriends ended their relationships with men living with N mothers and fathers. To them I wholeheartedly say, I know it hurts and it still sucks... but you did good, girl! From what they've told me I can clearly see they've avoided the drama and life of hell living with these in laws.
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